Confidence, discernment, and sexiness develop over time — Many years ago, when I was in my mid-twenties, my boyfriend at the time was explaining his categorization of women. Apparently, it was shared amongst his friends. It went something like this: Women between the ages of 20 and 25 were considered “gazelles.” He described them as being like “a…

You will keep getting the same lessons until you learn them — I have long wondered what the difference is between a soulmate and a childhood wound. Why are we so drawn to some people even though we know from experience that the relationship will end badly? …

Love is an action, not an affirmation — “You’ll never find anyone that loves you more than me,” my high school boyfriend told me as I broke up with him. This was after I caught him stealing my Guns N’ Roses concert tickets and a gold nugget ring my mom had given me, along with other teenage valuables…

How to protect and preserve your feel-good hormones in mid-life. — What do you think of when you hear the word “mid-life?” When I recently asked a group of women this same question, here are some of the responses I received: weight gain, anxiety, hot flashes, and wrinkles. And some responded to the question with a question, an existential one: “What…

Here’s how to find your lost Wild Woman. — I couldn’t help but wonder if the early feminists, who undoubtedly had the best intentions, took a wrong turn somewhere. My colleagues surrounded me in the small conference room. I was no longer present, yet I continued to speak on autopilot. “I’ll connect with my counterpart in their organization. We…

“Life really begins at forty…” ~ Carl Jung — I admit it. Sometimes I fall victim to the “must stay young at all costs” frenzy that seems to have invaded our culture. This has manifested in treatments, procedures, expensive skincare products, and, worst of all — comparison. …

Ancient wisdom to feel healthy, radiant, and divine in mid-life. — I admit it. In my twenties, mid-life used to terrify me. I assumed there were two options in mid-life. One is a matronly existence that consisted of ill-fitting clothes, an endless list of “to-dos,” and a long list of complaints. The universally reviled “Karen’ comes to mind. Or alternatively, a…

Here’s how to celebrate Samhain. — Samhain (pronounced sow-in) kicked off the Celtic New Year and was the time to come together to celebrate the harvest, birth, death, and rebirth. It is observed from October 31st through November 1st. This is a time to reflect upon and honor the past. And it is the most auspicious…

The dead want what we all want — attention, forgiveness, and validation. — “My father used to tell me, ‘No matter how much I gave her, she was never happy.’” My mother was recounting what her father would say about her mother, my grandmother. My grandmother, “Nana,” got pregnant at 15, married my grandfather, and gave birth to her first child at 16…