Confidence, discernment, and sexiness develop over time — Many years ago, when I was in my mid-twenties, my boyfriend at the time was explaining his categorization of women. Apparently, it was shared amongst his friends. It went something like this: Women between the ages of 20 and 25 were considered “gazelles.” He described them as being like “a…

You will keep getting the same lessons until you learn them — I have long wondered what the difference is between a soulmate and a childhood wound. Why are we so drawn to some people even though we know from experience that the relationship will end badly? …

Love is an action, not an affirmation — “You’ll never find anyone that loves you more than me,” my high school boyfriend told me as I broke up with him. This was after I caught him stealing my Guns N’ Roses concert tickets and a gold nugget ring my mom had given me, along with other teenage valuables…

Ancient wisdom to feel like a goddess — In our culture, beauty is an aesthetic. It’s a look we create. And magazines, YouTube tutorials, and TikToks will tell you exactly how to do it. But unfortunately, this can cause women to feel like their constantly chasing an unrealistic societal ideal — moreover, our culture values youth to an…

5 ways to boost your energy (and they’re not what you think). — The alarm goes off at 5:15 AM. However, I’m already awake. I jump out of bed — quietly, of course, so I don’t wake my kids up. I quickly put on my workout clothes and go downstairs to meditate and do my morning workout. After, I’ll walk the dog, get…

How you can save the world — During the Vancouver Peace Summit in 2009, the 14th Dalai Lama said, “The world will be saved by the western woman.” “This world?” I would have liked to have asked just to ensure we were talking the same thing. …

5 steps to create the life you really want — I had dreamt of starting a blog since 2013. But I was nervous about sharing my ideas and experiences with the world, specifically with a few select women in my town and the mean girls from high school. …

Use your relationships as a guide towards self-actualization. — I knew I would pull this card even before I did. I could see the image in my mind’s eye. This happens a lot, unsurprisingly. When we stay aware and present, we become connected to the divine life force where there are no coincidences, just serendipitous events, and a deep…

Oya guides you to recognize impermanence and appreciate today. — Oya, the Yoruba goddess of winds and storms, guides you to recognize the impermanent nature of our reality. She is our second orisha in a row (orisha is the term for deities of the Yoruba people in Western Nigeria). …